Train rides are a good time to catch up on blogging.

Train rides are a good time to catch up on blogging.

04/16

Life never works out the way you think it will. Yet somehow it all works out.

When I knew that I was coming here and chose to take a gap year to work and travel, I did a speciality coffee barista course so that it would be easier to find a job at first. I met someone who had connections around the states in high-end coffee shops who assured me he could connect me with people around the country.

So I came here thinking I was going to be making speciality coffee around the country this year. But when you have family in New Jersey it changes a lot.

I don’t have a clue how I’d afford to live anywhere and have to pay rent at this point, but I’ll get there. If you told me a year ago that I’d be working as an assistant manager at an independent theater in Asbury Park, have already left a part-time job because it was too overwhelming,  and am now trying to pick up extra work just to get by between paychecks; no ways in hell would I believe you.

Living in America isn’t easy. It’s very expensive. But hopefully it will all be worth it one day ♡

I’m currently on my food break and finally have some time to type out my blog post so Hi.

I’m currently on my food break and finally have some time to type out my blog post so Hi.

Written 04/ 10

Nothing is really getting easier, I’m just starting to deal with it I guess. People said it would be hard but get easier with time, but it’s almost like it gets harder as you miss more.

You miss a lot of things. Missing as in missing family, friends, home. But also missing as in missing best friend’s 21sts, your graduation etc etc.

I’m trying to put myself first and make a life for myself but it is a lot easier said than done.

I want to travel. Unfortunately you need money to do so. So it’s going to take a while before I can afford to do what I want.

I definitely want to be here for the summer. It’s going to be fantastic.

I’m going to Canada for a week in May which will be amazing. Cannot wait to see my family there and I’ve also sent a suitcase with my summer clothes there. So it will be nice to have something to wear besides my winter clothes I brought here.

Apparently it gets as hot here as it does in SA in the summer but we’ll see. I doubt it could be hotter than Durbs which is basically the sun.

Yes my keys inspired me.

Yes my keys inspired me.

So I’ve been here for almost three months. I can already say I’ve quickly gotten a new bunch of keys. Last year I had my car keys, Rhodes student card, apartment keys… Your keys are such a simple and normal part of people’s lives that you don’t notice how they almost carry our ‘lives’.

I’m not a student right now.  My car is in South Africa. I’m not living with my girls. My life is completely different. I have a completely new set of keys. New key ring. New house keys. A key for both my jobs. Gym card.

It’s scary but exciting. I guess people go through a bunch of sets of keys throughout their lifetimes. Changes. Experiences. Mistakes. Lessons.

Slowly starting to understand how it’s all part of life.

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The rest of the ten things I can say about life right now.

The rest of the ten things I can say about life right now.

6) Most Americans don’t use the word ‘keen’. Now I say keen quite a lot.  Eg: I’m keen to chill. Or, Do you want to go out? Yeah I’m keen.  No one seems to understand wtf that means here.  Keen = down for/ eager. But not all creepy omg I’m EAGER to see you kinda thing. That sounds appalling.

7) I missed one of my best friend’s twenty-first birthday party and it absolutely sucked. I wish I could have been there. It was so hard working all day knowing you’re missing shmeath’s 21st:( But it looked like it was amazing so I’m so glad my babe♡

8) I’m sick and it’s horrible. Nothing serious just a cold: runny nose, sore throat. Just basic flu. Over here, saying you have the flu makes people back away slowly. I don’t have a hectic flu where my entire body aches and I feel really awful.  Literally just sound like an old man and I have a cold.

In SA if I was sick with a runny nose and sore throat that was flu/ a cold. So I have no idea what to say to explain to people how I don’t need to be in quarantine.

9) I really miss everyone back home. A lot. But I’m doing my best and that’s all that I can do really.

10) I’m meeting more people and starting to get adjusted to working all the time and not studying anymore.

**lucky you here’s an extra thing I can say about life right now**

Bonus: I have the day off tomorrow, hells yes. ♥

Ten things I can say about life right now

Ten things I can say about life right now

1) I just rearranged my room and I am way more excited about it than I should be.  But it’s amazing. It’s very zen, spacious and simply beautiful.  It is perfect! So yeah I’m stoked about that.

2) I’ve always loved gyming/ working out, but recently I’ve become slightly obsessed. Nothing crazy, but seen as I’m not studying anymore (well for now), and I’m working majority of the time,  when I’m not at work all I want to do is workout and then chill in bed.

3) Carrying on with that point, I’ve been doing Kayla Itsines BBG training routine for almost two weeks. It’s a 12 week programme so I cannot wait to see if I can achieve results like so many women who use the guide and have incredible bodies.

I enjoy her workouts. The guide brings structure and good routines. Usually I do whatever body part I feel like doing that day: legs, arms, abs, bum…. This breaks it all down well and keeps me focused. I am motivated and determined to reach my goals!

4) Tomorrow marks the end of my detox skinny herb tea 14 day teatox. I really enjoyed it. Using the morning start and bed time cleanse teas I genuinely feel healthier and more toned.  It increases your metabolism and is great for your kidney, liver, colon, etc… Definitely something I would recommend. I’ve already ordered a 28 day package.

5) Something scary happened to me this weekend that probably won’t even seem like a big deal to a lot of people but it was to me. And seen as you’re actually reading my blog you seem to care for some reason.

I got invited to a house party last weekend so I thought ‘sure why not? MERICA!’. I got picked up by the dudes friend and his girlfriend.  He was too drunk to drive already. Anyways so as we’re driving to the party drugs came into the conversation and he asks if I’d be down to drop acid tonight.  I said definitely not I’m not into drugs.

He tried to convince me how “these weren’t addictive” etc etc. I really didn’t care,  I don’t touch drugs. All they could say after that was “prepare yourself”. I was concerned.

We got to the house party. The front couple of rooms had people mostly drinking, so I assumed people would just be really drunk. We walk around the house to meet everyone and I walked into probably the scariest moment of my life. Everyone in the room were snorting lines of cocaine on their iphones.

Now I know people in South Africa do coke,  but I had never gotten myself into a situation where I’d be in the same room as people doing cocaine. I had never been in a more nerve-racking environment that I had to make an effort to not have a panic attack and seem like a total freak. So I played it cool and asked where the bathroom was so I could leave. That then led to a bunch if coke heads say “BATHROOM” in terrible English accents (Ugh), and a guy literally snorting a line and saying “Welcome to America”. So that scared me.

The next room we got to seemed chilled. There were trippy pictures everywhere but the people seemed okay. Everything was cool for a couple minutes, until someone took out a bag of acid. Someone offered me a free pill (or whatever a ‘thing’ of acid is – I have absolutely no idea). Thanks but no thanks bro. So I left the room seen as pretty much everyone had taken one but me. I don’t know what people on acid are capable of lol.

I just realized I should probably stop now. You see, that’s how great and comfy my new room is. Sitting in my little chill spot. But long story short, drugs are f**king stupid. Don’t do drugs. Yeah I despise them because addiction has severely impacted my life and my family’s life. I know what drugs do to people. I could never be so selfish to put my family through what I’ve been through.

It seems like drugs are seen as so casual in this country and it’s hectic. They shouldn’t be. Whether you do cocaine every couple weekends or every day, it’s a drug you shouldn’t be messing with… You shouldn’t mess with any drug for that matter.

If you’re that bored with your life go to gym instead of using. It’s the better, natural and healthy way of getting those endorphins humans crave.

The rest of the ten things coming soon.

“South Africa, that’s by Argentina right?”

“South Africa, that’s by Argentina right?”

Yes, somebody genuinely asked me that.

Moving to a different continent was not easy. It still isn’t easy, but I’ll get there. The people I’ve met have been fascinated by my “accent”, my stories of living in SA, and my love for snow. It’s been over a month since my family went back home and I can’t believe how fast the time is flying. It still doesn’t feel real that I actually won a greencard and am living in America. It’s a weird feeling knowing your friends are still at Rhodes studying and partying it up while you’re on the other side of the world,  and my family being at home without me.

I’m so lucky to live in this day and age where I’m only a whatsapp or skype call away from everyone back home. I’m even luckier to have such amazing and supportive friends and family.

Mal & Tom are my new family here and they are absolutely incredible. With their huge hearts, amazing connections around the community and Tom’s cooking skills; I couldn’t ask for more! I don’t know what I would do without them here. They have given me a place to call home, their amazing dogs to love, and unexplainable kindess.

After my family left I needed something to be doing. Chilling in bed watching tv, drawing and walking the dogs was great for a couple days until I started losing my mind. So I started looking for jobs. Application after application,  interview after interview and thanks to my uncle’s connections in Asbury Park, after a week I had a part time job! But when you convert dollars to rands, and you think about how much you could be earning as each hour goes by doing basic jobs here, I needed to find another job for the days I wasn’t working.

I’m now working as the assistant manager at the Showroom; a little independent cinema in Asbury, and loving it! Part time I work at Tao Massage as a wellness assistant/ receptionist kinda thing. It’s been a super busy month but it’s great having something to be doing and accomplishing everyday.

In the couple months of being here I have experienced the following:

Had t

he most amazing times with my family. Taken the train to New York.

Seen the Empire State building.

Ti

mes Square,  Soho, Noho, East Village, Upper East & West side, Brooklyn, Liberty Island.

Central Park.

The Met.

Ramen noodles.

Bagels.

S

tarbucks. J

ohnny Macs (an awesome bar).

Had to say goodbye to my family.

Received my Social Security card.

Opened an American bank account.

Got a gym membership.

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merican sim card.

Started working for two jobs. S

urvived my first “blizzard”.

Met awesome people.

Met ignorant people.

S

hoveled snow.

B

ecame a regular at America’s Cup – the local coffee shop conveniently situated near my two jobs.

H

ealth insurance.

E

xperienced freezing cold weather.

Shoveled more snow.

Gotten used to constantly being covered in dog hair (living with 5 dogs).

I’ve had amazing times,  and I’ve had hard times.

For some reason this post feels like annoying me and won’t work so ignore the random spaces, lack of spaces and messed up sentences. I’ll work it out eventually.

It’s been an adventure so far, and I cannot wait to see what is to come.